As an American, I'll answer your specific tax question. The political portions will take up too much space here. But I do agree with you that the US government FAILS to provide enough funds for our nation's social needs (e.g., legitimate medical care for the poor, AIDS children, jobless who need job/skills training, etc.).
Now your taxes. Your husband makes a good living and about 50% goes to taxes. This is not really accurate is it? The US top tax rate for individuals is only 38% (or 38.5%).
I presume you don't work. Why not??
Do each of you have traditional IRAs? If so, that is an $8K tax deduction for both (or $4K for just him). Does he have a 401K? If so, then he can exclude up to $15,500 from his taxable wages.
Do you donate money, items or time to charity (i.e., churches, Salvation Army, soup kitchens, etc.)? Those are tax deductible. Are either of you taking classes at university? That's a tax credit. Are you itemizing on Schedule A? If so you can deduct medical/dental expenses if they exceed 2% of your AGI.
Also, how many people does he claim on his W-4? The more people he claims, the less tax he'll pay throughout the year. Come tax time, if he did his W-4 calculation correctly, you may receive a smaller tax refund or pay a small tax bill. I set up my taxes to withhold just enough, and at tax time, I either get a refund of about $100 or I pay about $100.
I'd rather have my money throughout the year for me to use vs getting a large tax refund. Why?? Because when you overpay taxes throughout the year and then get a huge tax refund, it's not a bonus. It's your money that you LENT to Uncle Sam; he's returning it with zero interest and no thank you note. For me to pay a $100 tax bill is peanuts in the larger scheme of things.
Whatever you do, please ensure you read the IRS Tax Pub 17; use the 2006 edition to give you a good foundation for working on your 2007 taxes (filing due on April 15, 2008).
So, both of you should scrutinize his paycheck, take advantage of those legitimate deductions and tax credits, adjust his W-4, and vote smarter in the upcoming elections.